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Love What Have You Done?

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Medical and personal issues aroused due to infidelity made me depressed, aggrieved, stressors, anxious and more. I can hardly handle these issues thats' why I need a breather. 

Do you know that I think of suicide and guns? When my father was alive, he tried to grab the gun from me. The people who are close to me by blood know about it. At least, there's none available. Neither knew of my traumatic experience. I admit that:

A Painful Relationship Story during Pandemic

Each of us faces different struggles during the start of the ECQ or Enhanced Quarantine Period. Pandemic has given me an enormous bogged-me-down personal problem. It has given me pain and anxiety when my partner has another woman that started during the third month of the ECQ in 2020. He asked for an apology, so I forgave him at that time. I thought that he might change and won't do it again.

When Is The Right Time to Start Your Own Family

We all want to start a family. But, the question is when? When is the right time to start a family? Are you ready for it? It's a big decision of a lifetime. Although, it's different how each of one started it, be responsible and face it.


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Are You Not Ready To Settle Down?

Settling down is something that many of us feel afraid of. We feel like it’s something we’re supposed to do, but at the same time, we’re just not sure what that means. Because settling down to the human race has a hundred different meanings. We could take about work, family, having a home, or just simply having a path to follow in life. Now, some of you might feel like having all of that is signing your life away. Because once you find yourself dealing with all of the responsibilities of the big bad world, you can often feel like everything is raining down on top of you, and that pressure to have to deal with is often crippling for so many of us. So, if you feel like you’re under a bit of pressure at the minute, and you’re feeling like you’d rather do anything but truly settle down, then this is the article for you. We’re going to show you a few ways that you can do the opposite of settle down, whilst sort of settling down at the same time. Because whilst you might not want the pressure, you also don’t want your life to spiral out of control.

The Good and Bad Of Going through Your Partner's Phone


A home improvement app, Porch conducted a survey and found that 49.6% of male respondents and 67.3% of women respondents snooped through their partner’s smartphones. According to evolutionary psychology, both men and women experience jealousy in different ways and, thus, feel threatened due to different reasons. Men, in general, are more jealous of sexual infidelity and women are more jealous of emotional infidelity as it affects the long-term commitment of their partner.

Tips for Making Your Long-Distance Relationship a Success

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People date for a couple of reasons: some do it for fun while others want to start a family through marriage. Irrespective of the reasons, the majority of the people want to have a healthy relationship, especially if they are enjoying every bit of it.

How To Have A Good Relationship by Dr. Paolo Bellosillo

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Sometimes, when you see someone your world freeze. You were standing right there like a stone and out of breath. It's difficult for you to turn around without looking at someone. Though your heart beat faster, you asked yourself, "Is this the one for me?" 

Sometimes, you will meet someone and it works. Sometimes, you will meet someone and it will feel like God intervened and made you meet. Most of the time though, you meet someone and they break your heart into a million pieces and you start to wonder, "why me?" 

With Valentines just around the corner, we decided to ask Dr. Paolo Bellosillo who is known for advocating living a quality life to share his thoughts on how you can protect your heart from the greatest stressor in life, a heartbreak. 

❤ What are the qualities that a woman should look for in a guy?

A woman needs to look for someone whose God-fearing because if a man fears God, he will be loyal, faithful, committed, responsible, and honest. These are traits that any woman should want for in a man. A man like this will never make you worry or fear that he will go astray.

❤ What are the qualities that a man should look for in their future partners?

A man needs to look for a woman who is capable of being their partner in life, not just in the bedroom. They need to find someone with a humble heart and someone who prioritizes their relationship with their pride.

❤ How can you have a relationship that is good for both parties?

A relationship that preserves the dignity of the other person is always a good indication. When there is a mutual trust and mutual respect, when a relationship is rooted in prayer and kindness then reinforced by communication, you know that it is beneficial to both parties.

❤ What are your 5 tips for a healthy, smooth sailing relationship? 
  1. Pray together. When God is at the center of everything, everything will fall into place. 
  2. Communicate. As they said, almost everything can be sorted through an open and honest communication. 
  3. Be kind. If you can't be anything, if there is no more love, then at least be kind. 
  4. Be open. The two of you are not the same person which means that you will not have the same beliefs, the same principles, and the same ideologies. In fact, chances are big that you will have different ones, so be open to understanding how the other person works. 
  5. Let go of fear. Most of the time, we react negatively because of fear. 
Any tips to our readers for this upcoming Valentine’s Day?

Valentine's Day is primarily focused on the heart, on love but every day should always take that into account as love is a journey and a decision which both souls build on. While the whole world celebrates it, do so in a manner where it focuses not on consumerism or material things because they fade. Be original: play a song, sing a song, cook with love for your shared favorite dish, go to the first place where it all began with your special someone, or go to church and why delay it, say I DO, tie the knot. Just make sure the other is ready and fits in the qualities and attributes of those listed above 

In addition, take your woman out in concert or have a fancy dinner with candles on top of the table or a hanging candle chandelier with little vines crawling on its arm. 

How about you? Do you have any advise for a good and healthy relationship? Do share it with us by commenting below. 

Counseling Help for Couples Planning A Divorce

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There are websites online that are specifically devoted to helping people in the divorce situation

Divorce can be an extraordinarily difficult and stressful time in someone's life. People don't get married with thoughts of when and how their divorce will unfold, so even if someone has seen it coming for awhile, it's still very tough to deal with when that day finally arrives.

Many people will submit that the longer the couple was married, the harder the divorce will be on one if not both parties. There are more and deeper joint matters to consider in a divorce of longer duration. These can include a house, bank accounts, investments, and other material goods. It can be difficult if you both have the same friends ("who will they side with after the divorce?"), and if children are involved, the level of stress can be almost too much to handle at times. The list can, and does, go on and on. Even if there are fewer 'complications'- the marriage was very short; each person pretty much had their own "stuff" and will take it with them, and there are no children or pets involved, this is still a difficult time. Really, a life-changing time in that things can all turn 180 degrees, in a good or bad direction, very quickly once each person is again "free".

As with any situation in life that involves significant events in our lives, and divorce is certainly one of those, some people are able to cope with and get through the most difficult times much better than others. Many people have rock-solid support networks in place, people and activities in their lives they can go to to ease their way through the transitionary period following the divorce. But for some people, especially if this divorce came as a surprise, this transition back into being single can be really hard to deal with in a variety of different ways.

For people that are having a difficult time either moving towards a divorce, currently going through a divorce, or trying to get their bearings now that the divorce has gone through, there are resources online that can really help them out. There are websites online that are specifically devoted to helping people in the divorce situation, providing advice and counsel from professionals and from people who have been through "the mill" themselves.

A whole lot of questions can arise at this time. What with the ease of accessibility to any topic or subject on earth on the internet, it can be a tremendous and most valued resource to access to get answers to questions people may have. It is possible to do exhaustive research and go from site to site through a number of search engine visits to get a listing of sites that can be beneficial. But how much time and aggravation is spent first finding sites they like, then go to on a regular basis?

The ultimate situation for people looking for help and advice in a really wide variety of topics related to divorce is to find individual websites that serve as a "one-stop" place for help and guidance in all matters related to divorce. Such sites can be significant points of origin to learn about clinical social workers that can provide essential counseling and support in a personal, face-to-face counseling session.

One fine example of such professional counselors that can be found on one of these comprehensive websites is Edendales, an experienced clinical social worker who can be contacted on Divorce Angels. She relies on Supportive Talk Therapy, Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, providing her services in a number of different environments, both in and outside the office.

Such websites really must be looked over in closer detail to see all the extraordinary points of information and interest they feature there for free. Leading sites provide such beneficial areas to click on that feature Professional Listings, Resource listings, Blogs, Forums, Posts, Divorce FAQ, and even Divorce Forms, Custody Tools, Processing Uncontested Divorces, Dating, and Savings and Classifieds listings.

This is a very stressful time for people, no matter how long or involved the marriage turned out to be. Why not go into this situation, or deal with the situation now, having the best information, resources, and means of support available? There are resources out there that can help considerably. Find one that feels comfortable to you, try it out, and see if it gives you a greater measure of comfort and confidence as you move onwards and upwards from here.

When A Married Man Cheats For Another Woman


When a man has another woman, we are blind by love and trust to even notice it. Perhaps, we're too busy with our work, house chores and caring with our babies. But hey, did you notice something different? Based from my experience, I did but still hoping and crossing my fingers that he didn't. I tried to ignore it because of the word TRUST, the word came out from my mouth, full of heart. I know this subject is debatable, but I would like to share this not by breaking your heart but giving awareness and knock on a woman's heart. It is not applicable to all men because each one is different. Now, let's start:

Cellphone/Mobile phone
Once you look and touch his phone gadget, you're five feet below the ground. He acts like a possessed man. He's furious why you touched it. The situation is reverse! He would suddenly say, "Don't you trust me?"  Some men will hide and turned off their cellphone. If you noticed it and read messages, they are ready for an alibi or delete it.

Perfume
Of course, when he's courting you, he sprays cologne all over to impress you with good smells. When you're living together, sometimes he skips a bath or doesn't even bother that he smells. As his partner you'll buy perfume and persuade him to clean himself. One day, you noticed, he's taking a bath, whisk perfume with a twinkle in his eyes and a dreamy smile before he goes out.  I'll cross my fingers!

Short-Temper
He arrived home and fuming mad on you (Always). If he meets a fight on the street, then why will he unload it on you? It seems there is no conversation without a fight. You're clueless!

I always noticed this! When a man look at you and say, "How pitiful my partner is?"  You feel warm and grateful but watch out! He pity you because YOU have no clue, what he's doing behind your back. I walked like I have no head that time. Everyone ones while I don't.

Now, ladies, if a concerned person tells you that your partner have an affair with another woman, stay calm and breathe. Please, when you confront the man, DO NOT tell him who the person is or where you got the information. Be thankful instead and keep it secret as much as possible. Sometimes, the man will try to discriminate and brain-washed you. He would try to turn the table against the person who told you. Sometimes, he would say, "Who told you because I will sue them to court!". Then, you think, "Ah, it's not true!" You're wrong! He was trying to cover the truth.